It is my passion to help hurting hearts
It’s not enough to say we want change
we have to become it.
In carving my way through to acceptance and peace I once only dreamed of, I’ve learned, and I share with you the truest of truths: Every grieving heart leashed by emotional burdens, pain, and suffering wants to feel better. Every hurting heart longs to live & love unleashed.
Speaking about grief is healing for me. And, it is a step to fulfilling my dream that we, as a society, may one day talk about grief like we talk about the weather.
Hi, I’m victoria.I’m a grief writer & Certified Grief Recovery Specialist®
I have been writing about grief on a personal blog since 2014, which later transformed into a self-published book in 2017.
Since 2019, I have been speaking on the topic. I have presented in front of school faculties on the topic of grief in students, military personnel, and in communities churches as a guest speaker.
The conversation around grief needs to change. Our lives, communities, and economy depends on it. Grief costs society in so many ways.
Think about the teacher at a school who is struggling with addiction. What do you think is at the root of that addiction? What do you think that addiction is costing, not only in that person’s life, but the school, community, and families that that person’s life touches and impacts?
Grief creates ripples – and not good ones.
Healing does, too – in a positive way. Let’s start creating positive ripples and start by changing how we communicate about grief.
If you, your organziation, company, or community are interested in having me speak, please contact me via my contact form and put “Speaking” in the subject line.
I believe in
Denial is strong, but truth is stronger. Facing what’s leashing your life is essential to unleashing your heart.
More rural than regal, more practical
And while I’m blessed to be where I’m at emotionally and spiritually today, I’ve not gotten here alone (and neither will you). This man you see here loved me when I didn’t yet love myself. Our kids and this family we’re raising in North Dakota continue to teach me daily—even more than the military my husband and I served, the childhood I survived after my father died when I was 8, the forgiveness I now feel that I once thought was impossible, the acceptance I now understand—that there’s more to our lives than the grief we endure.
ways we can unleash your heart together
the unleashed letters
Insight and inspiration, you’ll feel supported as you open each emailed letter and find inside learning opportunities, growth, and healing.
the guided heart
Let my personal story, helpful resources, and commitment to moving through grief into peace help you to do the same.
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