Q & A’s About the One-on-One Program
What is The Grief Recovery Method®
The program is a once-a-week meeting that gives you the tools, space, and support to work through and release the pain of a major life loss.
What's the difference between the 1-on-1 & Group programs?
In a one-on-one program, you’ll work directly with me. You’ll hear my story and get direct support from me throughout.
In a group program, you’ll share with up to 1-2 people, depending on number of participants.
The One-on-One program lasts seven weeks, whereas, the group program is 8 weeks.
What's the difference between the One-on-One In-Person versus Online?
Both programs are 7-weeks in length. However, with both, we have the option of meeting twice weekly – shortening the length of the program. However, this option isn’t for everyone and will be at my discretion.
Sessions for in-person are generally two hours in length, however, with online, they are generally 90 minutes or less. There are some variations in the online program, and you are receiving the same content, it’s just laid out a bit differently, allowing for more efficiency online.
For in-person, we meet face-to-face at the same location. For online, we meet live via Zoom.
I'm interested in the online program. But, what if I'm not very comfortable with technology?
It is not necessary to download Zoom for our meetings. You will receive clear instructions to login, as well as other tips.
I do not want technology to be a hindrance to doing the program. Please book a consultation with me to share these concerns or email me at victoria [at] theunleashedheart [dot] com.
Is there support between sessions?
Yes, of course! There are three ways to communicate with me that are provided once you become a client. It’s very important to me that you feel supported throughout the program (and after).
Is this only for working on the death of a loved one?
All losses are welcome! Death, divorce, and diagnosis are the most common, but there are over 40 losses that cause grief.
I've been diagnosed with depression/anxiety - is this for me?
When it comes to depression/anxiety, to be a participant, we look at the severity. We all experience depressive episodes in our lives, and mild anxiety is normal and common. To complete this program, you should be able to function in your day-to-day life, express yourself, and focus and complete the heart work contained within the program.
What can I expect from our time together?
During each session, you’ll be welcomed into a confidential, non-judgmental space where you’ll be expected to share the truth of your story as it happened to you. You’ll also be expected to complete weekly reading and heartwork assignments.
From me, you can expect open ears and an open heart ready to receive your story and ongoing support in-between each session. I’m also available to answer logistical questions about the program or technology concerns.
What do I need?
In-Person: notebook, pen, and an open mind. Book and materials are provided.
Online: Stable internet connection for Zoom connection and an email account to receive homework. The book will be mailed to you directly.
Do I have to attend every week?
Yes, your recovery is a direct reflection of your participation. If you miss a session, you’ll be asked to reschedule your session and will incur an additional $100 no-show fee. Although, I understand emergencies happen. And, if you need to reschedule, I ask you contact me 24 hours prior.
How is The Grief Recovery Method® different from therapy?
The Grief Recovery Method® is a series of steps specifically designed to help you recover from major loss within a set time frame. Unlike traditional therapy, The Grief Recovery Method® comes with a pre-established framework, a distinct focus on grief, and a limited number of meetings.
Why is YouMap® included?
As your grief guide, I learned the value of YouMap® first-hand. It has been my guidepost for making decisions, creating boundaries, as well as where to put my focus. It showed me I’m on the right path, while also illuminating the areas causing me grief and why. Violations of values cause us grief. Your YouMap® is a map of YOU; a tool for understanding the past, prioritizing the present and planning for the future (without suffering after GRM).
How do I get started?
Before we begin, it’s important we become acquainted first. This is deep work, and I want to give you every opportunity to ask questions as well. Get on my schedule HERE so we can virtually meet and we’ll go from there.
Take a chance on yourself to discover your inner-spark and, when combined with Grief Recovery, unleash your heart of its suffering.
CHOICE. Choosing GRM + YouMap® is allowing yourself to discover where you’re at and where you want to go.
EMBRACE. You may have spent years focusing on others, or, perhaps grief has shown you what isn’t working. Whatever the reason you find yourself at a crossroads, embrace the process of self-discovery for your today and tomorrow.
TOGETHER. You’re not alone in your dissatisfaction or along your journey. I’m right there with you as you discover what it is you truly want. As your guide, I’m here to support you and help you discover, for yourself, what to do next. GRM + YouMap® are not “cookie-cutter” because you’re not “cookie-cutter.”
NOW IS YOUR TIME. You can learn to unleash your heart of career grief or overall life dissatisfaction. You can live life the way you’d like to feel. Unleash your heart of suffering and discover your strengths, values, preferred and burnout skills, and the type of work that aligns with your personality TODAY! Your future will thank you!
Qs & As About YouMap®
WHAT WILL I LEARN?
The YouMap® career discovery engagement will support your goal of identifying feasible and desirable career options aligned to your strengths, values, motivated skills, and interests and equip you for better decision-making for your next career move.
You will learn more about yourself, and not only that, what to do with the information. Your YouMap® is, quite literally, a map of YOU! Learn what to do with yourself by knowing yourself!
WHO IS YOUMAP® FOR?
YouMap® is for anyone wanting to learn more about themselves and what makes them tick. More importantly, it’s for those who want a guide-post to refer to in initiating a change in career, learn their blind spots, understand themselves better, and, my favorite, learn how grief impacts them and how to navigate it – based on their individuality.
Those Who May Also Consider YouMap®:
- Military Personnel/Veterans Transitioning
- Stay-at-Home Parents
- College or College-Bound Students
- Youth/Teens (there are programs specific to Youth/Teens)
- Corporate Employees/Employers
WHAT IF I'M NOT CONCERNED WITH MY CAREER PATH?
YouMap® is more than a career clarifying program. Learning your strengths, values, and how you’re wired assists you in your relationships, too. Having an awareness about what’s important to us and understanding ourselves on a deeper level, helps us to clarify where we need to focus some attention (and intention) in our lives. It also helps me, as the facilitator, better serve you throughout the GRM program.
WHY YOUMAP® + GRIEF RECOVERY TOGETHER?
Both YouMap® and the Grief Recovery program honors individuality and uniqueness.
Just as our life paths are unique, so too is how we grieve. That being said, both of these programs are designed with the end in mind and the framework to get there.
Together, these two programs will unleash your heart of suffering and help you to discover, for yourself, the next steps that aren’t based on anyone else’s values but your own.
THE FULL YOUMAP® +
GRIEF RECOVERY journey
Recognize that you’re making a powerful move for yourself. You’re choosing a private, personal way to feel better, and you’re beginning the journey of Living Unleashed knowing that you’ve invested in your whole way of BE-ING and healing.
- Four assessments
- YouMap® Coaching Sessions, one at the beginning, and the other at the end of Grief Recovery
- A personalized YouMap® career profile that maps your strengths, values, motivating skills, and career interests to visually illustrate what career fit looks like for YOU. We will also craft your Unique Contribution Statement to clarify what you do best. And, you will also learn how you grieve and what to do about it.
- A complimentary copy of “The Grief Recovery Handbook” and other materials needed.
- 7 Sessions of Grief Recovery that will move you through and beyond the grief and loss of the most impactful relationship for you right now.
- Tools and knowledge to apply to your life – for the rest of your life.
This is your opportunity at guided support that offers tools, insight, and perspective that will move you through transition and grief.
You can feel better. YouMap® + Grief Recovery is how you can begin.
Have a question or want to know more?
Meet Your Guide
Hi, I’m Victoria. I’m a grief writer and author, Advanced Certified Grief Recovery Specialist®, Reiki Master, YouMap® Certified Coach, Podcaster, and trained End-of-Life Doula.
Not being sure of myself, trusting my own intuition, or discernment created a lot of unnecessary suffering for myself.
I sought affirmation from others most of my life; being afraid to “rock the boat” or make the wrong decision.
Grief and trauma were the catalysts for all of the confusion and emotional dis-ease I felt.
I did not know myself. However, I did know I felt like I was going crazy.
Grief Recovery changed my life and continues to be the reason I do everything I do today.
Gone are the days of not being comfortable in my own skin, being unsure of myself, and having to look to others to vet my ideas or decisions before taking action. Or, worrying about what I want to be when I grow up (as so many of us feel well into our 30s and 40s).
To get where I am today, I had to clear the emotional muck. And, to help others feel the alignment in their work and life that I do, I discovered YouMap® is just the thing to provide those answers.
YouMap® was my affirmation that the work I do today is in full alignment with my strengths, values, skills, and how I’m wired.
I got here first, though, by ridding myself of decades of suffering. And, that’s why I believe YouMap® & Grief Recovery together, are the perfect match for helping hurting hearts LIVE UNLEASHED.
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Considering that one-third of our lives are spent working, career satisfaction is pretty important. And, it’s not only important for our personal well-being, but also for the economy.
Here are some 2020 Career Stats to illustrate how impactful our careers really are:
- Nearly 75% of employees quit their boss, not their job.
- 79% of employees would refuse a higher-paying job from a company that failed to act against sexual harassment.
- 45% of employees believe they have gained weight at their current job.
- More than one-half of all American workers are disengaged at work.
- Workers whose input is encouraged and appreciated are four times as likely to be more productive.
- 96% of employees think showing empathy is an important way to increase employee retention.
I didn’t dig too deep for statistics, but you don’t have to. I also know that grief, on top of job dissatisfaction costs the economy billions of dollars every year. According to the 2003 Grief Index Study conducted by The Grief Recovery Institute, the financial losses to businesses due to grief in the workplace was over seventy-five billion dollars (that’s $75B – with a “B”)!
YouMap® is vital for hiring, career-pathing and exploration, leadership and team development, succession planning, and offboarding. It matters because YOU matter. And, when you understand WHY you matter, and the contribution you make to the world, that’s empowering knowledge.
The Four Pillars of Career Satisfaction
Your strengths are your natural, innate talents that come easily to you. The Gallup Organization reports that those who use their strengths daily in their job are six times more engaged at work. Also, your strengths are so unique to you that only 1 in 33 million people will have the same top five strengths as you. That makes you and your contribution to the world pretty incredible, my friend! And, YouMap® identifies your top five strengths (which are also your priorities).
Values are largely shaped by our experiences and are the main source of so much career misery for individuals is when a career doesn’t align with our values. And, considering values dictate what’s important to us, it’s easy to see how most job dissatisfaction is as a result of our values being dishonored. YouMap® will explain why your top ten values are important to you and why they matter.
Skills (developed from experience) are the abilities and expertise that contribute to an individual’s ability to perform roles with competency. And, according to Korn Ferry International, 85% of skills are transferrable from job to job. YouMap® helps to reveal the most preferred and least preferred skills.
How you’re wired is personality-based and refers to your natural preferences relative to interests, passion, and motivation. “Follow your passion” can be misguided career advice because passion is only one of the four pillars of career satisfaction. YouMap® will reveal your interests and motivation, and help to discover the best career fit.
I’m only a few weeks into completing the YouMap® and GRM (Grief Recovery) programs together and, I resonate with so much of what Victoria says. My dad’s death tipped the scales of my grief. I have learned that I have a broken heart, not a broken brain, it’s okay to talk about how I’m feeling honestly, and, to face what’s long been buried. Not to mention, the awareness I’ve had of not wanting to pass my pain on to my children.
YouMap® is a guided, personal journey that includes the four pillars of satisfaction.
Youmap® provides the info & then helps answer the question:
The Grief Recovery Method® moves you through your most emotionally charged loss so you can stop looking in the rearview mirror in your life.
Grief Recovery helps you answer the question: “What’s Next?”
Has someone ever offered you a piece of wisdom that you really needed to hear at a certain moment in your life? And, afterward, you felt differently – your perspective shifted, you could see more clearly?
YouMap® combined with Grief Recovery will, without a doubt in my mind, give you more inner peace, clarity, and direction than anything else you’ve tried that hasn’t yet worked for you. Why? Because both of these programs are uniquely tailored to YOU and your life experience.
Considering our jobs and careers occupy the majority of our time, aside from sleeping, job or career satisfaction is an impactful source of grief if we’re in a position that’s misaligned with who we are or our values are being dishonored.
What A YouMap® Looks Like
Regardless of which YouMap® offer you choose, you receive a full YouMap®, which includes the summary page you see in my example below. If you choose the Mini Debrief or Full YouMap® Coaching together, we will create your Unique Contribution Statement. Think of this as your elevator pitch. This answers the questions: who you are, what you do, who you help, and what the outcome will be, in a concise, short sentence.
Your YouMap® profile can be included with a resume or job application, college or program application, with a proposal if you’re an entrepreneur, utilized in aiding a transition from one position to another, and ultimately, as your guide and foundation of understanding for the future you wish to create for yourself. And, I’d be remiss if I didn’t add that it will help you to better understand your grieving process more deeply and bring awareness around your blind spots (i.e., challenges).
Sense the emotions of others, feel what others feel, hear unvoiced questions, anticipate the needs of others
What I Offer You
💛 My approach is EMPATHY first; it’s the driver in everything I do.
💛 I address the whole person; utilizing CONNECTEDNESS; helping you see the ripples of your past, illuminating the intricacies of relationships, and speak into all of the elements that make you – YOU!
💛 I’m practical, STRATEGIC, and provide tangible resources, practical tools, and actionable strategies that move you into action at a structured pace.
💛 We find your best path forward – together.
I don’t offer theoretical knowledge, rather, experience and tried, tested, and proven tools to help you see yourself in a way you never have and unleash yourself from the suffering:
- of not knowing what you want to be when you “grow up”
- when you realize you chose a life path that was what someone else wanted or wasn’t a good fit
- of not knowing what and how incredible your unique gifts and contribution to the world are
- from the loss of hopes, dreams, and expectations, and anything you wish would have been (or could be) different, better, or more
At this point, you might be wondering what the next step is. It’s important to take action but also to proceed at a pace that you feel comfortable with.
Please reach out to me by email HERE or schedule a FREE CONSULTATION regarding the one-on-one program. I am currently accepting clients for the one-on-one program online and in-person, if you’re local to me.
Do you still have questions? Schedule a FREE 20-minute Consultation.