Takeaways & Reflections | The Energy of Grief
SHOW NOTES SUMMARY:
We have more agency over our physical, emotional, and spiritual bodies than we would like to admit.
Admitting that we have power and control over ourselves is admitting that it’s also our job to do something about the issues that plague our physical, emotional, and spiritual bodies.
The energy of grief can be like cancer and invade every fiber of your being. It can destroy your relationships, finances, will, and break your spirit. But, what it can’t do is choose for you. You always have a choice.
In this episode, I talk about the energy of grief and I ask you to challenge the long-held beliefs that may be the very thing that could be keeping you emotionally stuck.
Life is so much harder when you go it alone. But, you don’t have to and this episode also shares an idea to explore if a deeper connection, not only to others but also yourself, is what you long to feel.
Care to explore your emotional energy more deeply? Check out my contact info below to look into Reiki Energy Healing. What do you have to lose?
RESOURCES:
- Ep 79 | Corchele Smith
- Ep 80 | David Richman
Thank you for tuning in to this week’s episode of grieving voices. This is Episode 81: Takeaways and Reflections, “The Energy of Grief”, where I’ll be talking about episode 79 with Corchele Smith, and Episode 80 with David Richman.
Be Open to Healing
I am titling this one, “The Energy of Grief”, because it came up during my conversation with Corchele. She had lost her infant, full-term baby. And tragically, it could have been prevented. I suggest listening to that if you’ve experienced child loss at full term, or any infant loss for that matter, miscarriage or what have you. Because we get into a lot about her faith and how she navigated that loss, which took her several years to find her way out. And she said you can’t get out of those low vibrational feelings by yourself. You have to have something to connect to, to really pull yourself out. And I often find with Grievers and even myself, we often find our purpose through our pain. Or we look for a purpose in our pain. And if we have a really difficult time finding it, maybe we didn’t really know what our purpose was before our loss occurred. We look to create meaning or find meaning within that pain, and Corchele found herself creating meaning from that loss of her daughter by reflecting on what it was that served her the most and helped her to really confront the pain of that loss and make it through the difficult days.
And that’s where her, organization, Because of Breklyn, was born in creating teddy bears for grieving mothers or fathers who find themselves leaving with empty arms from the hospital. One of the things that Corchele shared that helped her in her grief was a medium reading. And I know everyone has their own beliefs around mediums. But I think if a skillful medium can help you connect to the energy and the consciousness of your loved one, they can bring messages to you that may be very healing. And, of course, Corchele did find healing in that session with the medium. And also, in Reiki and energy healing, so much so that she became a Reiki Master. And so, I think it’s being open to other avenues or other means of healing that you just may not have considered before. And if you take anything from this episode, it’s to maybe challenge those beliefs and ask yourself, what do I have to lose? If it doesn’t help you or you don’t feel like you connect to that source of healing, then that’s okay. But you tried, right? And I think that’s a part of grief that so many misses. That you just sit and wallow in the tears, and there’s a time for that. Don’t get me wrong, there is an absolute time for that. But if you truly want to feel better and you do want to heal those parts of you that just feel so stuck emotionally. It’s healthy to consider all of your options and maybe try a few. And you never know it might end up changing your life. Reiki changed Corchele’s life for the better. The medium experience changed her life for the better. I can personally attest to the Grief Recovery method, it changed my life for the better, as did Reiki. Several different healing modalities that I’ve experienced myself, sound healing, chakra healing. There’s so many different means of creative expression for healing that people bring to the world to be of service. And I think in grief, it does require a level of openness, to be able to receive that healing. But again, you have to be ready to receive. If you’re not, it’s not going to do harm. But it can be an experience that truly does change your life.
Sometimes, what changes your life is your own awareness around your own energy and waking up and asking yourself a better question. And that is exactly what happened with my guests, David Richmond in Episode 80, he asked himself, “Who do you want to be? Who do I want to be?” And the answer to that was not who he was living up to be in his life. I think so many of us have a measuring stick of our lives and where we would hope to be a year from now. And that year comes and passes, and we look back and wish would have done this, that or the other thing. And those feelings create grief in our lives, feelings of regret, and remorse. It could even impact our self – confidence and all areas of our lives. And so, when we are reactive to life, rather than intentional, we put ourselves in risk of grief, of self sabotage. And so many of us find ourselves doing things because we have to. And we always think so often that the best days are behind us. And I’ve been there. I, too, have been there.
Deeper Conversations leads to Deeper Connections
And that’s what I loved so much about my conversation with David. He was really opened to sharing tips and things that he learned to navigate those grief experiences. So that, many of us often don’t talk about in our day-to-day conversations. We tend to have these surface-level-conversations with people that we’ve known for years. But if we just asked each other, maybe some deeper questions we would learn, we would get deeper answers from people and really get a better understanding of those with whom we keep company. And I think too, by having those conversations with each other, it kind of diffuses those grief-causing-feelings that we may have about our own lives. David had said, keep moving, because if you don’t keep moving, you get caught up in the story. And that, I think in conversation if we apply that not just to the physical aspect of our lives, but also the emotional and the communicative part of who we are. The parts of us that really desire connection with people, if we can keep those relationships moving in. How do we do that? well with deeper connection, and How do we do that? well, with deeper questions. I think it dispels these myths that we have about ourselves, these feelings that we take in as truth for ourselves. But when others are in our company, they know they’re not true. But us personally, we can’t see the label from inside the jar. And so, it’s beneficial to have these deep conversations with others because you see yourself. What you share is reflected back to you by that other person with whom you’re having this deep conversation with. And I think that’s what so many of us are craving now, its deeper conversation and deeper connection. But we can’t get there if we just maintain this surface-level stuff. If we don’t really dig into the energy of grief with each other. I think too, that’s why people are so afraid to ask someone if they’re struggling. Like just coming out and ask, “have you thought about harming yourself?” because the answer to that can be very terrifying for the person asking because what are you going to do? And I would suggest that you do have a plan, if you’re going to ask someone that question, but even just asking that question can feel like such a relief to that person, because you’re not going to put anything in their head that they already haven’t thought about by asking that question. And in fact, like I said, I feel like it would disarm it, kind of help them, bring the armor down, and maybe connect more deeply with you, the person leaning in, and having the conversation that you may be afraid to have. And there is an aspect of that, that requires you to be vulnerable, of course. But by being vulnerable, first, you give the other permission to do the same.
Connect with Someone that Believes in You
And so, there were some tips that David had given during our conversation. And I do highly recommend you listen to those one of my favorites. But one thing he said was accountability, it’s like a scoreboard. I read some time ago, there are people who feel more accountable to themselves, and then there are people who feel more accountable to others. Actually, I think that might have been during David’s episode. So again, I suggest you listen to that. So, you can hear that bit of it. But find someone who believes in you. That’s another one of his tips. You know, it’s the positive emotion that lingers. And I think if we have those people around us that help keep us accountable, that aren’t afraid to ask the deeper questions, that believe in you. That is what people can latch on to, who may be struggling, that might give them hope. Really, it’s about balance in the energy because if we have so much of this low-vibrational stuff going up going on inside of us, it creates physical symptoms, it creates manifests as emotional outbursts. And you know, we might revert to behaviors or look to something else to make us feel better, when really maybe a deep connection with someone would be the antidote for that.
P.S. So, I hope you found something useful in today’s episode, something that you can maybe implement in your life listening to David’s episode number 80, and 79 with Corchele. And take something from what they share and something from this episode. Maybe walk away today and ask someone a deep question and give them your time and attention to hear the deep answer. That’s for today’s episode, please reach out to me on social media. Find me on Instagram at theunleashedheart, send me an email [email protected] if you do share with me what your experiences are, I would love to hear it. And remember, when you unleash your heart, you unleash your life. Much love.