Takeaways & Reflections | Finding Our Way Home to Self

 

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Finding our way home to self is the journey we’re all on in the physical plain. So that hopefully, when our time is drawing near, we will have experienced a life well-lived. A life filled with joy and more importantly, one of peace.

In this week’s episode, I share a bit about my journey finding my way home back to myself. And also discuss the stories of the three previous guests and a snippet of how they have been journeying home to themselves.

I don’t know that we ever fully “arrive” at feeling completely healed. There’s always more to discover. There’s always something that rubs us wrong that others do or say, which start to have less and less affect on us as we connect more deeply to ourselves.

Additionally, there’s always going to be grief and loss that will likely, for a time, send us in a tailspin. We have to learn to recalibrate and get back on track again. How we do that will vary from person to person. And, the why behind doing so is often the first step in doing anything about our current emotional condition.

In doing nothing, there is much to lose – even if you don’t feel like there is.

We are all a piece in someone else’s puzzle.

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Make Yourself a Priority

I believe we all have a divine higher consciousness self. It’s more than our intuition. It’s our spirit that yearns to be nurtured and listened to. It’s also important that as energy workers or therapists of all levels, we take time to step away from our practices, and daily obligations, and do something that fills our cups, lights us up, and provides an opportunity to experience an upgrade or up-leveling of our own consciousness, helpers need help and support to. So if this is you, make yourself a priority even for a day, everyone you serve or nurture will be better for it, including you. And this is also true for caregivers of any kind.

Recently, I was seated next to someone who reminded me of myself when I was in my 20s and 30s. As far as where I was in my life and how I was feeling. As this person shared about themselves, I was reminded of all of the things I found along my path of healing, that had been stepping stones to the next thing. But you know, I wouldn’t have known how helpful and healing those things were. Had I not followed my intuition when I was led to those things, gave them a shot.

The Work that I love to do is My Destiny

Early on in my personal development, which is really a lifetime exercise. If you think about it. I felt like there was something wrong with me, and that I was destined to feel like I was going out of my mind for the rest of my life. What I ended up discovering by following the breadcrumbs was that I needed to allow myself time to learn and the space to integrate what I was learning, which is really where the magic happens.

I also learned that I needed support and that no amount of time sitting alone on my couch, pondering my thoughts, when actually do anything to move the needle forward toward emotional wellness. Emotions have been both a blessing and a curse in my life. I feel deeply my own stuff, but I also feel the emotional energy of others too.

Webster’s Dictionary defines an empath as one who experiences the emotions of others, a person who has empathy for others.

Empathy – is the action of understanding, being aware of being sensitive to and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experiences of another in either the past or present, without having the feelings, thoughts, and experiences fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner.

Empathy happens to be my number one strength, confirmed through the YOUMAP assessment, which is perfect for my practice as an energy worker through Reiki and biofield tuning and as a grief specialist working with grievers. Add in that I’m an INFP personality type via the Myers-Briggs assessment and Pisces. And I’ve come to accept that the work I love to do was also probably my destiny.

My childhood built me just as your childhood built you. No matter what you’ve experienced, who you were, as a child is staring back at you today as an adult. There are bits of us that we can’t ever erase or change. We can’t go back in time and there are no do-overs. However, we can transmute those experiences and the energy those experiences hold by allowing them to move through us. So that reflection staring back at us feels more familiar. Feels more like home.

Peace as a Goal

I have 3 guests on my podcast the episodes that were just recently released, which are Stephanie Cerins, Kyira Wackett, and Ram Dass they all have found their way back home, to a sense of self that feels more whole, joyful, and peaceful. And for me, feeling peace has been my goal for as long as I can remember. To me, peace is the opposite of feeling as though something is wrong with me. And I’m destined for lifelong suffering. There’s an exhale I feel and just speaking the word peace out loud. The word itself feels soothing, doesn’t it? Isn’t it funny? How Our goals are never to be the angriest, most ashamed, saddest, or most bitter person on the block.

And yet, that’s the baseline for so many of us in our day-to-day lives. It may not be outwardly and outright expressed, but it’s there, whether in thought, action, or deed, and either towards ourselves or others.

What if peace became the goal and the baseline? Whew, that sounds like a home, city block, community, state, nation, and the world transformed to me, about to you? Well, guess what? A transformed world starts with each and every one of us. Just think about all the people you interact with on a daily basis. The postal worker, delivery person, co-workers, boss, neighbor, friend, spouse, children, bus driver, we all see a lot of people regularly. And we can either bring our feelings of anger, shame, sadness, bitterness, or any other emotion that is disrupting our ability to be kind to ourselves and others. Or we can bring the child in us who is curious, craves connection, and doesn’t judge.

Emotional Wellness

Sitting through the pain and suffering with support of others in a way that feels aligned for you, is the best approach to emotional wellness. There is a lot to be said and being able to sit with yourself and contemplation and reflection. However, it is often through prompting questions that the biggest aha is or experienced. Because we are so close to our own stories. Those better questions often do not occur to us naturally, because we have our ego, with all of its judgment and internal storytelling also in the mix.

On my recently released episode with Stephanie, her stepping stone to healing was Alcoholics Anonymous, but that’s not where she stayed. She continued to follow the breadcrumbs which led her to write specifically curated affirmations for clients, and later author two books. I have another guest on my podcast who is Kyira, her stepping stone was therapy for an eating disorder that developed in college and lasted for eight years. However, because of excellence became a huge driver for her, in part because of her childhood experiences. Becoming the therapist she wanted became another driver. Today she assists clients from lived experience, but more importantly from a state of peace within herself that never would have happened had she continued to carry shame and guilt. Finally, Ram Dass stepping stone was therapy in conjunction with a self paced online program for assisting him in processing as emotions. I believe men in particular are often left to the side.

When as a parent, there is a death of a child. The man should be the man the stoic pillar of strength. People often rushed to the side of the mother to console and offer condolences. And I imagine for any father that can feel like dismissal, and additionally, are certain expectations of how a father should respond to a child’s death aren’t far from people’s minds.

In truth for all people, emotions unexpressed causes to either implode or explode, resulting in dis-ease, further loss, more grief, and additional unnecessary suffering.

Finding our way home to self is the journey we’re all on in the physical plane. So that hopefully when our time is drawing near, we will have experienced a life well lived a life filled with joy in more importantly one of peace.

much love, victoria

P.S. If you’re interested in learning more about the services I mentioned like Reiki and Biofield Tuning and YOUMAP be sure to check my website www.theuleashedheart.com. Or if your curiosity has been piqued and you want to listen to Stephanie, Kyira, and Ram Dass episodes you can visit my wesbite and go the Podcast Page Grieving Voice Podcast, you can see there all of my podcast published episodes.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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